Top Eight Things for a Whovian to See in New York City!

Y'all know by now that I am a total Nerd Girl...and one of the biggest fans of Doctor Who there is.  And as we're heading to NYC next week, I thought maybe I'd provide you a list of the top ten things that a Whovian (that's a big ass Doctor Who fan) should see.

Sometimes I Wonder

My son was just over two when I left, and my daughter wasn't even born yet. I knew at the time that it was the best thing - and I still do.  However, the problem with leaving a situation like that when your children are too young to have formed any lasting memories is they get ideas.

I'm very, very careful to keep them as far from the conflict between their father and I as possible.  They have very little exposure to any animosity between my ex and myself.  And as a consequence, they simply don't understand why we can't live together.

The Passive Aggressive Valentine

With the holiday approaching, I ventured out yesterday to pick up Valentine's cards for Hubs and the kids.  Despite not really appreciating the commercial element of the holiday, I still do that.  I always like the little extra attention as a kid.  The reminder that my parents loved me.  

OK...and the chocolate.  

I've always tried to get the kids an interesting gift.  Not a toy.  On year I got Puck a bird house for the back yard.  For Flower, an ornamental box for her jewellery.  Last year I got them a bird feeder and some seed.  I'm going to try to find some wooden yo-yo's for them this year.  (Yes, I do realize that this is a "toy" - but it will teach them dexterity - and a lot of kids don't have yo-yos).

With Hubs, this is just one more occasion to appreciate him.  And I do.  I take a lot of time to pick out just the right Valentine's card.  The one that's not too corny - but that tells him just how much I appreciate him.  And how special he makes me feel.  And how lucky the kids and I are to have him.

Seven Ways I Knew He Was "The One"

If you've been reading my blog for a while, you know that I have learned the hard way that there are some relationships that are just...wrong.  Thankfully though, I've also discovered that there are also relationships that are just...right.

Looking back, I know there were signs in my first relationship.  Signs that I clearly ignored.  I don't know if I can prevent anyone else from learning things the same way I did, but I thought I'd make a list of how I know I'm with my perfect mate.

By Any Other Name: Freedom Smells Just as Sweet

When I got married the first time, I couldn't wait to change my name.  Without telling you what my old name was, I can tell you that it started with a W.  Mr. Ex was much closer to the beginning of the alphabet.   As young and empty headed girls are wont to do, I spent so much time doodling and scribing and finding just the perfect signature.  

I married him in between schools.  When I started a computer programming course at the local college, I had my new name.  I was called almost first - instead of last as I had been for the whole of my school career.  

And with that step, I cast aside who I was as a student, a child, and I became a woman.

Our Story: Marriage "After" Divorce

My divorce was long, difficult, and messy.  We'd discussed finalizing the paperwork, but my ex outright refused to pay his half.  "I'm Catholic.  I don't believe in divorce."

Yeah.  Catholic.  Right.

Anyway - everything was done except for the decree.  I didn't have the piece of paper that said I was completely and wholly apart from the man that I had married.