Taking a Right at Albuquerque

My life now seems to go in a continuous cycle.  Not in a bad way, like a merry-go-round that never stops.  It's now like I'm on a road with two paths in front of me and a map of where I've been.  I keep looking at the map for clues to where I should be going.  I took a proverbial left at Albuquerque, and that's how I ended up here.  What if next time I take a right?

I'm speaking of course about the "mess" that is my co-parenting relationship.

Co-Parenting and Sick Kids...

So...poor Puck has been feeling poorly since Saturday afternoon.  He's been mostly OK, taking in a normal amount of fluids, but not eating much, and a low grade fever.  Some minor vomiting.  But as today is a transfer day, I had to let my ex know last night as he'd have to make arrangements for Puck to come into his custody - it's his day.

This is the e-mail I sent:

Heads up - Puck has been feeling poorly since about noon yesterday. He's had a low grade fever, is feeling achy, is not very hungry and has thrown up twice. He's also complaining of headache.  He's managing to eat a little and is keeping up his fluids. He's also been very tired and sleeping a lot. I understand one of his school friends has been vomiting since yesterday as well - I suspect it's just a stomach bug.  Given it's after six now and he's still got a temperature, I don't want to send him to school tomorrow. Please confirm you're able to take him in the morning and I'll drop him to you before work.  If he still has a fever tomorrow he should likely see the doctor to check for signs of infection or other issues.

Goblin Kingisms

Sorry guys - I don't have a ton of time to write today but I thought I'd bring you a few Goblin Kingisms from this week's e-mails (you'll recall my previous posts on his issues with acyrologia):

"I feel that you may have underling (sic) issues."

"When I stated a fix plan, this was to lessen the sabre rattling."

"I do have concerns of my comment statement, but I will put that on the back burner for the time being."

The Dreaded IEP Review

The long awaited IEP review for Puck happened yesterday.  For those of you who need some review:

• Diagnosis: Dysgraphia - Struggling Against my Ex AND the System 
• Do My Children Need Therapy? A DivorcedMother's Worries 
• Nature vs. Nurture: How to combat a predisposition to mental illness when co-parenting with a narcissist  

Now that you're caught up, the school called about a week ago and asked if it was "OK" to have the annual review together with The Goblin King.  I had, of course, anticipated this would be an issue, and already told them that my husband would be joining me (he's my muscle for these types of meetings).  I reminded them in the phone call that my husband would be joining me, and if it was OK with the Goblin King, it was OK with me.  (It's not really, it's never productive, but I don't want to look like the one who isn't trying).  Building up to the meeting, my husband and I had a strategy session that basically went like this - as soon as the Goblin King acts up, we request to have the meeting alone with just the "adults" present.