Step 1: Get rid of the thing that is causing you the most stress - your husband.
OK. So it doesn't exactly work that easily. When you were considering leaving your ex, did you find that the clutter started to get overwhelming? For me, it was like there was something in my life cluttering not just the rooms, but also my mind. Sure there were spurts and starts where I'd get rid of a bunch of stuff. But it all just seemed to cave in on me. Like that scene in the movie Labyrinth. There's a little junk lady puppet who tries her hardest to distract the heroine from her goal of reaching the Goblin King to save the child. The real truth was - that "stuff" was holding her back. She needed to realize that before she could move on with her life.
