Not all wounds are visible: Insights into marriage with a narcissist

Today I read a Facebook post on the page  "After Narcissist Abuse - There is Light, Life and Love".  It was a list of the things that narcissists do.  It suggested that "when you leave, he'll invent stories about you."  It rang true with me.  But the narcissist in my life started inventing those stories long before I left.  For years and years.  He'd blame me for whatever problem he felt wasn't his fault.  Because it never, ever was his fault.  

A Delicate Situation: How Do You Tell a Friend They're in a Relationship with a Jerk

My girlfriend is in an abusive relationship.  I've tried talking to her.  Admittedly, I haven't been very supportive.  I've seen evidence of the abuse she takes from him.  There are photographs of ver bruised and scratched face after a particularly difficult day with him.  But she won't seek help.  She insists everything is fine.  That his behaviour is normal.  That it's her fault, not his.  It's in his nature.